Loneliness is a product of egoism. Its fear can be overcome in two steps: stop waiting for love and give it to the world, and build inner wealth through one's connection with the Supreme.
Sometimes you meet people who at first glance seem cheerful and happy. But when you get to know them better, you are surprised to find that the soul of each of them is literally crying out with loneliness. For many, loneliness is a frightening word, born of the fear of being left alone now or in the future.
You can get rid of the fear of loneliness in just two steps.
The first step is to reorient the mind from demanding attention, love and so on for oneself to giving one's inner wealth to people.
The feeling of an inner need for love, an inner necessity to be attached to someone, is a kind of immaturity that can produce only an illusory way out of loneliness: to get married as soon as possible, to have children. These decisions should be carefully weighed, but the fear of loneliness can push a person into rash actions.
Perhaps for some people the mere presence of a partner nearby will be quite enough and will make them perfectly happy. But the more complex a person's psyche, the more developed they are intellectually and emotionally, the more points of coincidence with them it will take (outlook, ideas, a sense of taste and humor, full resonance with each other) for that person to stop feeling lonely.
If you look at the root of this phenomenon, it turns out that loneliness is a product of egoism. Having built around their ego a wall of fear, doubt, shame and prestige, a person hides behind it and, as a result, feels lonely. Then they wait for someone to come, break through that wall and give them unlimited love.
At an advanced stage of the loneliness syndrome, a person is unable to step outside the wall they have built. Conscientious loners do not want to impose themselves on anyone – for example, to be the first to start a conversation or to join a group without being invited. Because unconsciously they are afraid of revealing their complex: that they need love and supposedly want to take something from people.
Loneliness is the direct opposite of love, and so the cure for loneliness lies in the directly opposite approach to life. The first thing to do is to stop waiting for love to appear from the outside world. The second is to take your love, just as it is inside you, climb out through the wall you built with your own hands, and give your love to that very outside world which was unable to provide you with love.
The lines from the song "whoever loves is loved; whoever is radiant is holy" are the law for overcoming loneliness.
In other words, to stop being lonely, to dispel this feeling inside, one needs to reorient the mind so as not to take from the world but to give the world what one has, to serve it selflessly. When a person no longer expects or demands anything from those around them, and cares only about how they themselves can help them, this develops an inner magnetism. Such a person becomes a center of attraction for people; others begin to be drawn to them with love, because showing love to the world around you calls forth love from the world in return.
The second step is to build up inner wealth in yourself, so that you have something to give others.
But how can you share what you yourself need? That is a challenge. For example, if you have only two thousand rubles to live on for a month, it is practically impossible to share that money with anyone. The constant feeling that you are lacking something creates inner poverty. The danger of such poverty is that in service it will show itself as expectations of reward in return and as reproaches for ingratitude.
It is easier to share when you have a good income, but for many even that is hard – they are held back by a feeling of inner poverty, which in essence does not depend much on material prosperity. That is why it is very important to eliminate the feeling of poverty and to accumulate inner wealth. For this one needs to develop a self-sufficiency based on a special relationship with the higher reality. What helps this growth is a sincere acceptance of the idea: no one needs me, everyone is fine without me, but I am always surrounded by the supreme Consciousness; it cares for me, and so I am never alone. This may be a painful realization, but it is a very useful one.
Thanks to a steady, strong connection between our individual mind and the Supreme, a feeling of security appears and the feeling of loneliness disappears. You feel self-sufficient and no longer need to be attached to anyone. From that moment the ability appears to love people truly and sincerely, expecting nothing in return. The inner happiness born of the relationship with the Supreme is that very boundless inner wealth which is so easy to give to others in selfless service.